What causes you to struggle

Struggles we all have them, those things that just causes not to enjoy what is happening. A Life Coach can help you navigate your struggles.  We look at others with out noticing they have things going on in their lives that cause them to struggle too.  You may not know that your best friend is struggling.  It is obvious that many need someone to reach out to.  The rate of suicide, addiction to alcohol, drugs, gambling, eating, sex have all increased. What can we do?  The most important thing we can do is listen.  I mean really listen.  The next is smile or give a complement to those who cross your path.  Do random acts of kindness like paying for the person behind you in the drive through food place. Give a fast food gift cards to the needed. Volunteer at a food bank on their food distribution day. Let someone in front of you while driving. Be extra friendly as a driver.  All these little things can help someone get through a day that has many struggles.  I am sure you could think of many more things you can do.  If a transition is what is causing you to struggle, a life coach can help you navigate this.  Many life coaches offer free first session for you to see what it is like and if you feel this would benefit you.  Including me.  All you need to do is to  email me at:  discoveramazingyou@gmail.com or go to book now page.  Do not just sit there if you are struggling talk with someone.  What causes one person to struggle may not be what causes another that is okay. We all have times in our lives that gives us a harder time than other times. That is called life.

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Can you be friends with a Democrat

Wow!  What a powerful question.  This was asked of me.  Let’s look at this question.  It is asking if you are strong enough in your beliefs to be friends with individuals that have totally different beliefs.  Could you be friends with a terrorist, murder, gang member, an outcast of society and not have them rub off on you, but you rub off on them?

I would say Yes, those who believe in Jesus has an amazing example.  What allowed him to be able to be with who ever and stay true to himself.  One He know his values and what was right and wrong.   We too must know our values and then have the strength or backbone to live by them.  We have become a society where we accept what others accept but does it really fit what we say our values are. (if you need to explore you values a life coach could help.)

Today, society is leading us away from the moral foundation this country began on.  This doesn’t mean we were prefect at the start of this country, but were trying to be a country that respected the dignity of life.  These are slowly fading away.  What should we do?  We need to let our representatives both in congress and those in the White House when they are not holding up our values.  Another is looking at ourselves and seeing our defects and our good qualities.  If you are in a 12 step program this is step 4.  A in-depth focus of ourselves.  Do you notice you putting someone else or group as the fault,  then you are not looking at your part.  How was your action, did you make it worse because of the words you said?  Were you respectful at all times?  Did you follow all the rules?  Did you show kindness and understanding?  Did you blame someone else because of your failures?   Did it happen because you weren’t confident or have self-respect for your self?  Do you realize you can not have an argument if you do not respond to someone else’s statement.  I believe this would give all of us something to work on and as we become better so will society.

Focus; am I living the values I say are important to me?  Do I change for the situation I am in or do I stay true to myself?  This is something a life coach can work with you on. Do I vote for those with integrity, or just my party.  When my political party is not in tune with my values do I let them know it?  When a politician comes up for re-election if I know they are crooked do I still vote for them, or do I vote them out even if it means the other party will get in?  Do I only see the faults of the other guy or do I see the faults of all and speak up?

Can I have a friend that stands for all that I disagree with?  If I am Mother Theresa or Jesus I would say Yes,  they were the same always and gave the same message.  They knew themselves and had total confidence in how they were living.  If you struggle with being true to your values then NO

If you need a guide a life coach is a great place to turn

Transition

How does transition affect you?  We all go through transitions in our lives; from infant, to child, to teenage, to young adult, mid-life, retirement, old age, then there is changing schools, moving, a new jobs, losing your job, to getting married, the lost of a love one or close friend, buying your first home, to divorce, to realizing a habit is destroying your life, injuries, losing your home, and then there are those you initiate like: going to the gym, working on your spirituality, eating healthier.  This past year with COVID there was much transition to our every day life. From being isolated, not seeing other peoples faces, to only shopping in one direction in one isle, to being able to drive up and put the groceries in your car, to working at home, not being able to visit those in the hospital, only a few allowed at funerals, and not being able to travel.   Did this year shed light on an area you would like to find more peace and see where it is headed. Then you may wish to obtain a Life Coach.  Some individuals are less affected by transition and seem like they just ease through.  While others seem to get stuck.

When one fines themselves stuck; this is a good reason to find a Life Coach to help you navigate the transition you are going through. This is different than counseling; a Life Coach is more interested in where you are today and what or where do you want to be in the future.  Instead of all the focus on your past.  Did you know there are different types of life coaches for the different transition you are going through (finical, health, child, teenager, young adult, grief, business) . For me I work with individuals (28-75) that just need help to focus on what is causing them to struggle with life or the transition they are going through now. WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK!  I help you reflect on your life now and what would you like it to be in the future. I also include spiritual reflection to guide us during the process. We are a partner and you are the expert in your life. I am there to help you hear your voice. Of what is going on and what can you do to make it more like you desire. You can book a session right from this website.  Or you can email me; discoveramazingyou@gmail.com

May you transition through life with a breeze but if you find you are stuck I am here.

 

“It is when we are in transition that we are most alive.”  William Bridges

“When shifts and transitions in life shake you to the core, see that as a sign of greatness that’s about to occur.”   Anonymous

“Just when I discovered the meaning of life, they change it.”  George Carlin

Did you know May is Mental Health Month

What are you doing for your mental health? Just remember it is okay to ask for help.  There are many things you can do.  My 30 day Gratitude Challenge; (just send me your address) for gratitude can change our attitude.  Have you tried yoga, or meditation, having a day out having your fingernails and toenails done, going in nature- whether a trail, the beach, the mountains, forest, sand dunes, even a walk around your neighborhood,  or even having time with friends, or in a peaceful chapel to pray. Don’t forget to eat well for your bodies health.  If you are struggling I am here to listen and help you discover what you need to gain that calm feeling or help you find the right resource for you.  With COVID we all have had times we struggled with all that has changed.   If you are a friend or relative of someone who is struggling please let them know you are there.  Let them know it is okay to ask for help.  You can invite them to come with you to a session with me if that will help them.

 

“Don’t take yourself too seriously. Know when to laugh at yourself, and find a way to laugh at obstacles that inevitably present themselves.”  Helen Barry

“A bear walks into a bar and says, “Give me a whiskey and ……. cola.”  Bartender ” Why the big pause?”  The bear shrugged.  ” I’m not sure ; I was born with them.”

 

Remember; You are Amazing!

Sad! Ever think of the number of people dying of unintentional drug overdose

Today!  As we begin a new month I wanted you to know some sad facts.

One person in the U.S. dies of an unintentional drug overdose every 21 minutes.  Each day 46 people die of an overdose of opioids.  In 2019 70,630 Americans died of drug overdose.  

Are you a friend or relative of someone who is using legal or illegal drugs?  You are the person that could benefit from talking with me as a life coach.

If your co-worker is using drugs or alcohol and you are thinking it is not healthy.  Please let them know your are concern about them.  It is the silence that lets them continue to think it isn’t effecting them or that it doesn’t matter.   By speaking up you may just be the seed that gets them to look for help.  It lets them know someone cares.  Try to present the topic in a friendly caring mater of fact conversation.

Love-Are You Open

Have you ever really reflect on how you show others love?   “Rid yourself of all malice and all deceit, insecurity, envy, and all slander, like new born infants, long for pure spiritual milk so that through it you may grow into salvation, for you have tasted that the Lord is good.” Peter 2:1-3   Now it is amazing how we look at others really can help or hinder how we love.  If you see what someone else has and you feel less than because of it. Then, you are not seeing all you do have.  Is this an issue for you? A life coach can help you work to find your gifts and talents.  The more you are happy when others receive good things the more your heart is open to love. Do you think my spouse has it so easy?  Maybe actually doing what they do in a day will show you it isn’t as easy as they make it seem.  This month is for us to reflect on what others do to make our days better.  Those of you who are married when was the last time you went on a date.  You should be doing this a least twice a month.  How about a best friend; when was the last time you told them what they mean to you.  Why not take this month to tell all those who are close to you what they mean to you.  The more you can do this see how your own spirit is raised.  When we give with no strings.  It just seems to benefit us too.  If you are not sure if you have malice, insecurity, envy, or even if you find that you do say things that is slanderous working with a life coach could help you.  Just set up an appointment today.

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Happiness

Do you look for happiness in people, or pets, or places, or things?  Do you have internal happiness?  Are you in search of happiness?  What brings you happiness and how long does it last?  A Life Coach can help you explore all these areas and help you discover ways to improve your happiness.  By exploring your attitude in different situations.  Things to think about.  1. You can’t change anyone, you can only change yourself.  2.  It is in focusing on others in understanding and acceptance that help our attitudes. 3.  Things will always only give you fleeting happiness.  4. Attitudes of gratitude help how you feel about a situation.  Walter Heily put it this way. “Happiness is not created by what happens to us, but by our attitudes toward each happening.”   If you would like to work on this issue contact me at discoveramazingyou@gmail.com or schedule an appointment.

Money can’t buy happiness.

 

Are you finding yourself discouraged?

This is has been a very strange year, from Covid-19 to protest and riots to an election.  Some may feel overwhelmed by it all or frustrated that we have yet to return to the way it was in the past.  Most are ready for it all to end, yet that is not going to happen right now. I am going to give you some suggestions to help you along the way.

There are things you can do to improve feeling isolated, frustrated, even overwhelmed.  The first is look around you; what is going well for you?  Make a list.  The next is find ways to connect with others: send cards or letters or e-mails or call people on the phone, Face Time. This will help you but also the one who receives the correspondence.  That is the start; but the most important thing you can do is to start making a list of 2 to 5 things you are grateful for that day. Examples :  Like I wasn’t in a car accident, I am healthy, I have food to eat, I have shelter, I have friends, I have a job, I have a computer, I can write, I have a place to rest, I saw a beautiful bird-animal-cloud-sunset-sunrise, I have my faith, there is endless things you could list I just gave a few,  but here is one more , I have indoor plumbing – for in my grand parents time they had to go to the outhouse.  Try not to repeat the same things.  As you get use to writing your list it will get easier.  The last is to take my 30 Day Challenge, just comment that you would like to try my 30 Day Challenge and I will send you and email telling you all about it.

Just know you are not alone and that others are feeling just like you.  The best is you are trying to find things that will help you.  That is what a #LifeCoach does, so if you need that service let me know.  This will pass it is just for a season, that we do not know how long it will last but we do know that it will change with time.  Have an amazing day!

10 Tips for relaxation

10 tips for relaxation

There are lots of ways to relax. Though what works for you one time may need a variation or something different. That is normal. 1. Deep Breathing (Take a deep breath in and pause and then exhale slowly). Now it can take 3 to 9 Deep Breaths for you to notice a change. Or you can just focus on your breathing. 2. Visualization (close your eyes and picture yourself at a place you enjoy [The beach, mountains, lakes, in a boat, or on a plane] and just think about the sights, sounds, smells, the air, and the atmosphere). 3. Meditation (Sit with your back straight and breath through your mouth and exhale out your nose slowly. Say a Mantra (one word or short phrase). Or focus on a candle light. What ever works to switch your mind on things going around in your mind. If you are struggling that is okay, don’t let it frustrate you, just go back to taking slow breaths and try again). 4. Ta Chi (The focus of the Yin and Yang) that helps with balance. You move from the waist, perform slow movements with deep breathing. Doing them at your pace while stretching your body. 5. Yoga 6. Music or Art. 7. Biofeedback Therapy Where you learn to control different muscles in the body. 8. Aromatherapy (uses essential oils that you breath or put on your skin). 9. Hydrotherapy (uses water that is hot or cold, like a footbath, spa, or bubble bath). 10. Read or an activity you enjoy. If you are struggling then a #LifeCoach maybe beneficial for you. They are able to talk you through Deep Breathing, Visualization and find other avenues you may want to try.

 

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Are your fog lights on?

Life is a journey and as we go through it we go through plains, hills, valleys, and mountains always changing. A life coach helps you along your path. If you have a love one or best friend that is addicted it affects you like driving into fog. Fog cloacks everything not just one person or the things that surrounds it. As driving into fog if you turn on your headlights it has an effected but isn’t very helpful to you and the same is true for using your high beam lights, and can actually make the situation worse. Our efforts to change the person addicted is the same. What you need is a tool like your fog lights, (they put the light underneath) and shows you a path to go through the fog. That is what a #LifeCoach does helps you find a path. One thing to remember you didn’t cause the addiction, you can’t cure it, nor can you control it, we can only control ourselves). Like fog just happens and it is how we deal with the situation that makes the difference. So no one should think you wrong or weak or ill to use fog lights and the same is true for using a life coach.

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